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I went to Jim for couples counseling. My gf and I started great but over time we started fighting. We were hoping Jim would call us out on things we were doing wrong. But the message we often heard was "You both are equally accountable for this trouble." For example, I was delayed with coworkers. My girlfriend called and I took 90 min to get back. She screamed we were over and smashed her phone. Jim's response was "You're equally responsible..." Jim never really conveyed the sense my gf was ever really wrong in how she saw me. This had me start to second guess myself and my instincts. I wondered if I was this horrible person they were seeing. Jim often suggested gifts. Vacation, TV, etc. I ended up buying all kinds of stuff as our relationship decayed. I fell into a submissive role, walking on eggshells and giving gifts. She became more aggressive, quick to voice any irritation. The more gifts and time I spent, the less she cared. In the end she stopped bothering to contact me. She broke up via email. At the end, she admitted being diagnosed with a condition that has the type of fighting I endured. Perhaps I expect too much, but Jim failed to recognize this condition. Any therapist would have their hands full with our relationship. I believe Jim is a good man and that there are patients he has helped. Sadly, not us. I feel his advice was not helpful and sometimes damaging.
Posted: 10/16/2013 • Link to this review